Blood is thicker than water.
That’s what I’ve learned from this ordeal.
My grandmother is on her deathbed.
I haven’t moved for 10 hours.
Just sitting by her side.
It could be days, it could be hours, it could be minutes.
But her organs are shutting down.
This is it.
My family have spent the last 12 months caring for her full time.
So here are 13 life lessons I’ve learned whilst slowly losing a loved one:
1. Life Is A Test
There were times when I selfishly felt that I was missing out by spending less time hustling and socialising.
I can’t tell you how ashamed I am to have ever entertained that thought.
I could not have been more wrong.
Even the dark moments in this life are a gift from God.
All growth comes from suffering.
And it’s how you choose to act in the darkness that truly counts.
We can only achieve our divine destiny by helping others and we can’t even come close to it by aiming to better ourselves purely for material ends.
2. Care Workers
Palliative care workers are angels.
To care for someone properly, you have to sacrifice your own desires and put them first.
Doing this for a family member is hard; doing it for a stranger is heroic.
People who devote their lives to caring for others are built different.
3. Avoid The Labcoats At All Costs
Modern medicine just throws toxic pharmaceuticals at symptoms.
The labcoats are only capable of blindly regurgitating ‘the science’.
But ‘the science’ is bought & paid for by the enemy of humanity.
The labcoats gave her 3 weeks to live, 9 months ago.
Home remedies, love and faith work wonders.
4. The Vaccine Killed Her
A week or so after the second Pfizer dose, she had a heart attack and never recovered.
Yes, she was old.
But before the jab she was travelling into town by herself to go to the cinema once a week.
After the jab she was bed-bound & crippled.
I stare into the mirror every night and recite Deuteronomy 32:35.
‘Vengeance is mine’ said the lord. ‘And I will repay. In due time their foot will slip; their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon them.’
I pray God frees me from my lust for revenge.
5. Atheists Struggle To Handle Death
Atheists are intellectually unequipped to handle death.
If you believe that this life is all there is…
Then losing a loved one, having to cover them with dirt and never see them again is one of the most traumatic experiences one can have.
But having faith in Christ and the belief that we will meet again has allowed me to remain stoic.
God allowed me to be a rock for the rest of my family to rely upon.
6. Blood Is Thicker Than Water
Sending your parents to care homes is a demonic act of selfish spite.
It’s humiliating to lose the ability to wash yourself, to feed yourself, to wipe your own nose.
But having a family member help you through these changes makes them much more manageable.
“I’m so blessed to have such a caring family”.
These are often my grandmothers last words before bed and it brings a tear to my eye.
Every time.
As a man it’s your duty to protect and provide for your loved ones.
Making her feel cared for at the end is all that matters
And this will not happen if you ship her off to a care home to be neglected by a foreigner on £7 an hour.
So refuse to view the situation as a burden, choose to view it as a luxury.
You get to be the light in their darkest hour
Blood is thicker than water
7. The Eyes Are The Window To The Soul
Your skin will wrinkle, your muscles will attrify, and your hair will fall out…
But the glint in your eyes remains unchanged
If you allow yourself to fall in love with someone’s eyes & you’ll be in love with them forever
8. Humour Is The Elixir Of Life
This weekend we spent 48 hours straight with her
My father wouldn’t leave her side
He barely slept for two days.
At one point, my grandmother was shaking uncontrollably, and crying about how she couldn’t get to sleep
Then, out of nowhere, she became calm, took a deep breath & whispered: “I think I’m going now”.
My mother cried on my shoulder, as my father leaned in and gave her a final kiss.
Then, out of nowhere, my grandma said:
“I’m dying, you could’ve shaved for the occasion.”
We laughed so hard she made it through the night.
And god bless her she’s still fighting.
Sometimes I wonder whether spending my free time writing comedy articles for this blog actually achieves anything…
Does any of this really make a difference?
Now I know the answer is yes .
Comedy alleviates pain and bonds people for life.
That’s why the enemy try to ban it.
A comedian can bring a smile to the face of a person moments from death.
So whatever happens, keep laughing.
Comedy is just tragedy viewed from a different perspective.
9. Compassion Is King
She has been bed bound for 9 months, but her first thought is always to ask how other people are doing.
How was your day? Are you feeling ok? Did you eat lunch?
Even in her final breaths she’s caring for other people first
Every nurse/doctor comments on how thoughtful she is.
She has a divine feminine nature all women should aspire to develop
10. Have A Stiff Upper Lip
The old English were a force to be reckoned with.
Despite everything my grandmother is going through, not ONCE has she complained
I’ll moan about getting banned from twitter, the latest lies from the sneaky media or how I was sent to HR for saying a fag was ‘flamboyant’.
Meanwhile, she’s dying and still handles her emotions better than me.
Develop a stiff upper lip so you don’t burden other people with your problems
Especially for men, talking about your problems magnifies them, rather than alleviating them.
11. Friendships Come And Go, But Family Is Forever
When you’re down bad, I mean really bad, your business partners and customers won’t be there for you.
Your friends aren’t going to feed you soup four times a day.
But your family will always answer the call.
If you are lucky enough to have a family, treasure it.
It’s the most important thing in life
If you don’t have a family…
Get married and create one from scratch.
12. There Is No Glory In Dying Of Old Age
The end is absolute torture.
I’m sorry, but it’s true.
Losing your mind, losing your independence, losing your dignity.
These things are completely humiliating.
I don’t know Gods plan for my life, but I have no desire to see my seventies.
Perhaps I should be careful what I wish for, but the ideal life appears to involve getting martyred in your fifties.
13. Smile at the executioner
The meaning of life is death.
Life is a process of preparing for our final breath.
Women fulfil their divine destiny by being surrounded by life they created on their deathbed.
Those who manage to do so, effectively achieve immortality.
* Update*
My grandmother passed away a few weeks after this was written. Thankfully, she was surrounded by our family when it happened. Thank you for all the kind messages.